Wednesday, 11 November 2015

Working mothers starting their own business. It can happen!

Well it's been a roller coaster of a year. My boy has started school - I know, really, and my other little baby, is no longer a baby, but a screaming, demanding but (luckily) adorably cute toddler. On top of that I have got wisp up and running and check me out, I've managed to get myself in the paper! Have a read and let me know which of you mothers out there run your own businesses too.

Friday, 16 October 2015

Wispit is LIVE

If you read my last post you can see a new site of mine . It is now LIVE and ready to use. Please let me know what you think!!

Monday, 11 May 2015


Hi folks, this post is a little out of the norm in that I am asking for your help. Being a more or less full time Mum at home I have been thinking of ways to make a business so I can stay at home with my babies for as long as possible. Well here it is. Obviously I think it is the most awesome idea ever, especially considering my mug that I got for Mother's day. Shitty presents are to be a 'no more' status. So if you like the idea, I already have my website designer at the ready, pledge, then wish, or should I say wisp.....

Tuesday, 7 April 2015

Babyknowledge: The lonely Mother!

Babyknowledge: The lonely Mother!: Yep, will all feel it, yep ,we all don't speak about it, yep, we all feel guilty about it! So you're at home all day, every day, y...

The lonely Mother!

Yep, will all feel it, yep ,we all don't speak about it, yep, we all feel guilty about it!

So you're at home all day, every day, you have the cutest little cherub you could have ever have imagined, you love that you don't have to go to 'work' all day and that you can enjoy a more relaxed pace of life.

Well then the shock comes, you realise that somedays you don't actually speak to any adult bar your partner, that despite the fact that you are doing the most important job in the world you feel invaluable. THIS IS NORMAL.

Before your baby arrived you probably had a successful career, your time was your own and you and your partner were on some equal footing, however when baby arrives and you are home on Mummy duty, with a saggy body and weird brain dysfunction from over tiredness and lack of stimulation, things feel like the balance shifts a bit in your partner's favour. All of a sudden your partner thinks that its your job to make tea and wash his clothes. And believe you me, this can make you feel rage and frustration like no other. If like me, you wear the trousers in the relationship (I mean come on, which woman doesn't) this can be a bit unsettling; to suddenly feel isolated and really dependent on your partner. THIS IS NORMAL, and more importantly it won't last.

When your little one comes along first comes the shock and then comes the loneliness. Why do you think I write a blog?!! Truth be told, babies don't really do that much. My advice is to take this opportunity to do all the visiting and coffee drinking you can muster. Believe me, this will set you on solid ground for preventing future boredom! When you baby doesn't move, its the perfect time to go for coffee, here's the tricky part though, every single person you know HAS A JOB! It is essential you join some mummy groups. Yes they might seem really straight, boring people who you would never normally hag out with, but stick at it. They are in the same boat as you and the longer you know them, the more honest they'll be about how they feel. And you'll need that support when you are having a down day!

Arrange weekends away. It may seem like the last thing you can be bothered to do, but having some things in your diary will give you things to look forward to.

Arrange a night out with your 'real' friends at least once a month. Go somewhere really nice so you can get dressed up, and don't talk about the baby!!

First thing in the morning arrange to go for a walk with someone - one of you fake mummy friends, invite a different one along for each day of the week, then you can see who you actually want to be friends with. Harsh? yes totally, but this is about survival. This will set you up for the day, even if you do sod all for the rest of the day at least you'll have been out of the house!

Each week, have a coffee, mummy group meeting - EVERY week. It may seem boring but you need to fill your day and so do these other mummys!!!

Find a hobby you can do that involves your bubba - photography - taking some cool snaps of your sweetheart, a blog! lol! anything that gets your creative juices flowing. This really is the time to explore what you enjoy doing and who knows where it will take you!!

Before you know it those first few months will be over and with these tips you will have weathered the storm. Good luck my lonely, blog reading, mummy mates.

Friday, 24 May 2013

Ready for labour - yes but is your partner? Dad's maternity hospital bag checklist.

As women we have a very conscious 9 months (give or take) to prepare ourselves for the birth of our little babies. Coming into the third trimester we begin to think about our maternity bags and if you're like me, start slowly packing from around 30ish weeks. With Zack I left my bag open in the nursery and would just add to it when I'd been to the supermarket or a baby shop. This gave me the opportunity to regularly see what I'd bought and what was left to get. It also meant I didn't get too overwhelmed (which was easy at the time) by having to pack everything all at once.

When early evening Friday 29th July 2010 came :) and it was time to put my maternity bag into the car, fortunately it was all ready to go and didn't cause an unneeded extra stress.

I wish the same could have been said for my partner and his 'maternity bag'. Naively I had presumed he would have managed to organise his 32 year old self; managed some forethought; realised that using the time when I am crippled in pain and have the patience of a raging bull seeing red, to think (yes this took a lot of time too) and pack some things for the hospital was an inopportune time and probably should have been done days before (especially as I was 5 days overdue). Not that I'm bitter of course!

So for all you Mum's-to-be and Dad's-to-be start to mother before your baby arrives by getting Daddy's maternity bag ready too.

This is what he should have:

Some spare underwear,
Toothbrush (just buy a new one then it's in the bag before labour day),
Toothpaste (again just buy a new travel sized one then you/he can pack it before labour day arrives),
Camera - fully charged,
Telephone list (this might be in your/his phone but make sure any numbers you don't have are on an old fashioned paper list so he can inform all and sundry on your new arrival),
Music - whether this is going to be on an iphone, or CD's tell your other half it is his job to organise,
Massage oils - you may have these in your bag, but it will be his job to use them!
Magazines, just put ones in for you, men don't admit this but they enjoy reading our mags just as much as we do. It is also a nice distraction to get your partner to read the articles aloud when you are in labour,
Snacks - just buy packaged stuff you can pack beforehand without the worry of them going off. E.g. crackers and cheese, museli bars, dried apricots (fruit), crisps, chocolate. These will be handy for your partner to keep his energy levels up - you probably won't feel like eating anything,
Jumper, if its a long labour, going through the night he might get a bit cold,
Pillow, again if its a long labour a pillow will be nice for Dad.

Now go and tell your partner this is his list, he has a week to get it organised and you're going to be checking it!!!

Thursday, 2 May 2013

Cradle cap cure

Zack had a mane to rival goldilocks, his little, tiny head was a mass of wavy, thick locks that had a life all of its own.

Beautiful and the envy of any limp, thin haired lady!

He did, however suffer from cradle cap. Cradle cap has many alias'; seborrhoeic dermatitis, crusta lactea, milk crust or honeycomb disease and is common for almost half of babies from about 3 months old. If you think about an arid cracked, sandy riverbed then you are picturing cradle cap. It is yellow and scaly and can cover baby's scalp from the eyebrows to the rest of his head.

What is it?
Well they don't know! (why don't they research these things - like morning sickness). Many health professionals believe it maybe a fungal infection. However, don't be alarmed, cradle cap is not caused from poor hygiene or an allergy your baby may have. It is also considered harmless and will eventually disappear overtime (6 to 12 months). Some arguments claim cradle cap is related to antibiotics either given to Mum or baby in the first few weeks of life. Others suggest cradle cap is caused by the over production of the sebaceous glands.

Of course there are old wives formulas which claim to prevent and cure cradle cap. I wanted to stay natural so tried them all but unfortunately none of them worked. That is not to say give them a try if you so wish, you never know it may work on your littlie.

The  old wives formulas!
Olive oil/baby oil/Almond oil/Coconut oil
Using a babybrush, dab some oil onto baby's head and brush the loose skin away. For sure, this does brush some of the scales away but they return and it doesn't get rid of cradle cap in total.

Cover baby's head with vaseline, leave it overnight and wash off in the morning. Nope never worked.

My health visitor is a little batty and can often suggest some things that I would nod at in her presence but would secretly be thinking she was mad and no I would never subject my baby to that. One of the things she muttered through a visit was that I should wash Zack's hair with an anti dandruff shampoo. Outraged that I would use such a strong chemical on my little one's precious head I bravely nodded my head and said of course I would try it. Well the weeks passed - without anti dandruff shampoo and the cradle cap continued. My next health visitor meeting came and she asked if I had used the shampoo she suggested. Erm yes, I lied. 'How odd' she reproached 'that always works'. Trying to hide my reddening cheeks I changed the subject thinking I'm for sure going to hell with all this lying I'm becoming accustomed to (you know; you haven't made tea because you were tired and the baby was crying all day, I'll only have a small glass of wine for a change, my baby needs that really snazzy pair of highly overpriced dungarees that cost the same as the couch but you say were given to you).

When I got home I mulled over whether I should give it a go. I used the smallest amount of shampoo it barely caused a lather and when Zack's hair dried his scalp hadn't fallen off and he still looked the same - no skin blemishes, burns etc.

By the second wash using anti dandruff I could see a noticeable difference and by the time I had washed his hair half a dozen times the cradle cap had disappeared.

Things to consider:
Zack was around 6 months old when I began using anti dandruff.
I never got any in his eyes.
I only ever used the smallest amount to wash his hair - about the size of a 5 pence piece (10 cents).
I only washed his hair once a week (at most).
Please be aware anti dandruff shampoos come in different strengths.